Daily Mom Hug | No All Access Passes

I don't care who they are: no one gets an all access pass to your life

Good morning, fam. Today, let’s talk about access. To you. To your life. To the details of both. Who gets this access? Can it be revoked?

That’s totally up to you, but here are some thoughts you should consider:

• Family does not get an all-access pass, especially if they’re toxic. This includes parents complaining that you are keeping them from their grandkids. If they can’t be good parents, they’re going to be manipulative grandparents.

• Exes do not get an all-access pass, either. Especially if they’re toxic. But they are exes for a reason, even if you’re co-parenting. It is not their business what you do with your life, as long as it’s not harmful to the kids.

• Current partners do not get an all-access pass, either. Especially for sex. You are not obligated to ‘provide’ sex whenever they want. Nor are they for you. And there should be a serious conversation about sex while intoxicated, medicated or asleep. This includes being able to say no before/during sex.

• Bosses and co-workers? Same. Doesn’t matter how long you’ve been there, there is zero requirement to allow them access to your private life unless it is directly impacting your work.

I think you get the basic idea.

The most important part, though, is that all access can be revoked at any time. This includes trusted friends and family who are feeding information to any of the abovementioned people. It’s a boundary, and if people can’t respect that, they have proven they didn’t need to be in your life anyway.

You deserve the peace of mind.

Remember that.

Love,
Your Mom