Good morning, fam.
Do you know what I wish that we did more?
I wish we celebrated the little successes.
Did you get out of bed today? Good for you! That is a success!
Did you manage a shower today? Good for you! That is a success!
Did you, you know, do something small… that’s big for you? That’s a success!
We spend so much of our lives being judged by success, as it’s oftentimes measured arbitrarily by someone else’s ruler. So ridiculous, because they:
don't live our lives,
don't pay our bills,
don't walk in our shoes, more importantly,
don't walk in our heads.
So why are we giving them space to judge us for these things?
We should stop.
And not only should we stop letting them in to influence our spaces, we need to figure out how to remove their echoes from inside our heads. I don't know about you, but a lot of my self-doubt and imposter syndrome sounds like the voices of people in my past who've told me there is no way that I can do anything considered a success in their world.
That, in a word, sucks.
But that's what we have to do, folks. We've got to figure out a way to ignore the voices, and yes, I know, easier said than done. Â Like everything else I've ever told you, this requires practice, and sometimes you're going to fail. As long as you get backup, that's okay!
Back to my point: you are worthy. Just the way you are.
Am I saying that you can't grow as a person? Heck, no! But I'm saying grow on your own terms. Grow because you want to change your life.
Don't grow to reach somebody else's ruler, because that will not serve you. It might serve you momentarily, but in the long run, you're going to resent them, you're going to resent yourself, and you will have lost time better spent on things you love. And you should be something that you love.
Another work in progress? That's okay!
So, I just want to wrap up today by acknowledging, yes, that life is hard. Let’s not make it harder by listening to bullshit from other people. You want someone to tell it to you straight? I absolutely will, but most of those people are self-serving and do not have your best interest in mind.
You’ve got this.
Love,
Your Mom
Seems that society in general has become much more judgemental. It's hard to tune out those voices.