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Mother's Day is Coming (Ad)

Mother’s Day is coming, and for many of us, that isn’t a great thing. While it hurts for people who have lost a great mom, for those of us who still have our moms in name only, it can be a difficult time to navigate.

I know for me, it’s a double-edged sword.

I love being a mom. My kids are great. I feel love and appreciated all year.

I do not love being a child, though. Since my bio mom abandoned me, my first stepmother abused me, and my current adoptive mother basically ignores my existence, it’s hard for me to feel anything positive when I go through the card aisle.

I mean, when’s the last time you saw a ‘You were a terrible mother. Have the day you deserve’ card? While, of course, I don’t think anything positive would come from actually sending a card like that — if they were going to change, they would’ve by now and a card will not be the catalyst for that — I do believe in the power of letting go of trauma when we can.

One of the best ways I have to do that is to write it all out, ugly and fiery anger, and then burn it. That may be the pyro in me, but there’s something almost transcendent about watching all that emotional baggage burn away to ash.

So, I created this collection of realistic Mother’s Day cards for the rest of us. Write it all down, seal it in an envelope addressed to them (but if you have a well-meaning spouse/partner/child, don’t actually address it, so it doesn’t accidentally get in the mail!), and then burn it on your grill, in a fire pit, in a nonflammable tray filled with salt (salt is also purifying, so…).

And let it go.

I’ll be talking about Mother’s Day over the next couple of weeks, so let me know if there’s anything in particular you’d like for me to touch on.

Until next time,

Love,

Your mom

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