Daily Mom Hug | Mother's Day Thoughts
Mother's Day Thoughts: "I Loved You the Best I Could"
I loved you the best I could.
How many of us heard that as adults from our parents? I know I have, and while I logically understand the thought behind it — that they were ill-equipped to have children — it feels like a cop-out.
I mean, I know it wasn’t easy to raise broken children in the 80s and 90s, and while you might not have been the reason for the initial breaks, you didn’t do much more than drive a wedge into the cracks and force them wider.
For me, it wasn’t even how badly and nonexistent I felt in our family as a child, but your inability to deal with me on equal footing as an adult. It took until my 40s for you to remember to text me on my birthday, when I watched you post happy birthday to your dogs on Facebook.
Yeah, a cop-out.
And while this behavior is oftentimes a result of how they were raised, they did not make the decision you did to break the cycle and do better.
If you feel like that, too, please know that their inability to be the parent you needed is not a reflection of your worth as a child, even as an adult child, but wholly their disregard and irresponsibility.
And as someone recently told me: You are now the person you needed as a child.
I’m so proud of you.
Love,
Your Mom